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Stop Bottom-Shaming: Your Misogyny Is Showing

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Bottom shaming is when you treat people who receive penetrative anal sex as inferior or disgusting. As with any other ism, it can be overt or subtle. “It’s giving bottom energy” is an example. Conversely, people’s continued use of “top” or “top energy” or even “alpha” frames topping as inherently superior. Slut shaming also seems to increase whenever someone is known to receive any kind of penetration.

If you are squeamish or uncomfortable around sex, sexuality, queer sex and sexuality, and blunt discussions of sex, body functions, or body parts, this article is not for you. Also, there is no one way to have sex or mess around and everyone’s body is different, take the things mentioned here with a grain of salt.

Bottoms Generally Have To Do the Most So Everyone Involved Has Fun

Just one possible way a bottom might prepare for anal sex

Generally speaking, if you are someone who prefers hygienic anal sex, bottoms have to clean out their asses. How much and how long will vary for everyone every time. Bottoms also might have to avoid eating most things (or chose to not eat at all) any amount of time beforehand to stay hygienic. Strict tops don’t have to worry about these things (though everyone should be washing their asses, don’t be gross).

But beyond cleaning and potential fasting, bottoms are at increased risk for pain, physical discomfort, and STD/STI transmission. So why belittle and put down those who are literally more vulnerable?

Men Fuck, Women Get Fucked

Who is the “man” in the relationship?

“Who is the man?” “Who wears the pants?” Society is hellbent on men being the pursuer and the penetrator, and women as the pursued and the penetrated. So for any man or non-woman getting fucked, they must be trying to be a woman, right? And there’s nothing worse than someone who isn’t a woman trying to be one, right?

Alphas vs Betas/Masc vs Fem/Top vs Bottom

One is more acceptable to the general public than the other. Can you guess which?

Let’s not play games. When you hear someone is a “top” what do you imagine? Someone built, masculine, probably muscular or fit, with a big dick, and confidence. None of these traits are inherently bad, but you should unpack why these traits are associated with tops. In actuality, anyone can be a top or bottom. Short, tall, fat skinny, big dick, average dick, little dick, no dick at all, man, woman, non-binary person, any sexuality under the sun.

The reason why most people imagine or prefer male tops to have all the traits associated with masculinity is that a lot of people are inherently misogynistic. Men fuck, and women get fucked. And the ideal man looks like a pro wrestler. Anything less just isn’t a man.

In Conclusion

Uncle Clifford and Lil Murda from STARZ original series P-Valley

Like what you like. You don’t have to top, bottom, be verse, or do anything to prove anything. Do it because you like it and want to. Take care of your sexual health, be open and honest about your experience with your partner(s), and don’t take nonsense from anyone and their opinions about you and your sex life.

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I identify as a womanist. I am also gay. I am a Black American-Descendant of American Chattel Slavery. My pronouns are he/him/his, and I am a comics, tv, movie, and video game stan. My expertise for comics and related media are DC Comics, Marvel Comics, Archie Comics, and a little bit of others here and there, but I'm hoping to branch out to other, Blacker and indie comics and related content. I'm a binge watcher and can talk about shows for days. You can find me on YouTube and various other social media platforms as thaboiinblue.

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Still Reeling Over The Passing Of Kevin Conroy, The Quintessential Batman

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It is not breaking news that Kevin Conroy, the voice of Batman for countless fans and a couple of generations, has passed away at 66. I had planned to write a piece much sooner, but I couldn’t find the will nor the words. In the span of mourning, we were hit with the additional loss of Jason David Frank, the original green Power Ranger and an overarching protagonist of that franchise, also a hero to many. I was a massive fan of Power Rangers when I was very young, but at some point growing up fell off of the franchise. Thus for me, I only vaguely remember details about the franchise, and my main memories were of the first film Mighty Morphin’ Power Rangers.

Nevertheless, the loss of Frank, a Power Ranger and a hero to many of us is still one I lament and I plan to do that Power Rangers rewatch I’d been planning for a while now. I say all of this to say that I will likely not be doing a separate piece on Frank, but wanted to acknowledge him and his passing. He too shall be missed. Jason David Frank as Tommy Oliver shall live on in many of our hearts.

Jason David Frank as Tommy Oliver. Rest in Peace to another hero.

A 90s Baby’s Relationship to Batman: The Animated Series

One of the greatest shows of all time

I was a 90s baby born in 92. Batman the Animated Series first premiered in the year of my birth and was an ever-present fixture of my life and a constant obsession since I was a very small child. It was Batman TAS, X-Men TAS, and Spider-Man TAS that first fully cemented my love for superheroes and comics. They would be followed by Superman TAS, Justice League, Justice League Unlimited, Smallville, and many, many more. I remember being as young as four and five years old trying my best to negotiate with my parents to let me stay up at 8 pm to watch an episode of the series. I remember when before they started collecting the series in full-season box sets (or a full series one), they would have DVD collections of best episodes or certain writers or creators’ favorite episodes. One of them featured Poison Ivy on the cover but none of the seven or so episodes had her in them, and I called Circuit City (shoutout to Circuit City, lol) for a refund because Poison Ivy was my favorite villain and I bought the DVD expecting to see her. I don’t remember if they gave me my refund, but I remember one sales clerk saying that it wasn’t their fault that she was on the cover and wasn’t in any of the episodes, they didn’t design the cover or choose the episodes. I must have been twelve at the time.

There was always something very special about Batman that I could never escape, even if I wanted to. The dark tone, the gritty atmosphere, the colorful characters, iconic villains, and the Batman Family members as well as allies coming in from time to time made this an experience to behold. The writing and crafting of this series were special to me and so many other fans because it knew how to be dark, and sometimes outright disturbing or scary, while still being a show appropriate for children. It didn’t treat kids like they were stupid, anyone at any age could enjoy the material, and it was very expertly done. The music, the visuals, the tension, and the incredible voice talent. This was the series that brought to the world Harley Quinn, who I continue to joke is the same age as me because we both first appeared in the same year. This was also the series that gave us Mark Hamill’s iconic role as the Joker, and Kevin Conroy as the main man himself: Bruce Wayne aka Batman.

Kevin as Batman and as Bruce Wayne

Bruce Wayne and Batman in the episode “Perchance to Dream”

It was easy for me as a child to focus more so on Batman’s iconic villains or some of his supporting characters, namely other members of the Bat Family, because a part of me always felt Batman was eternal and inevitable. He was Batman, I knew he would never die in the series because he was the hero. It was always easy to gush over the immense vocal talents of Hamill’s Joker, or others such as Arleen Sorkin’s performance of Harley or Diane Pershing as Poison Ivy, but Kevin Conroy as Batman and Bruce was always incredibly underrated, in my opinion.

Despite Batman being a classically stoic anti-hero who sticks to the shadows, and isn’t one to regularly express his emotions, Conroy was always able to voice him with such charm, gusto, and personality even when the character was at his most stoic. Conroy’s voice of Batman was perfection: deep and menacing, yet gentle when it needed to be. His tone could be downright icy when the occasion called for it, and when Bruce expressed moments of genuine anguish or emotion such as his iconic scene where he breaks down at the site of his parent’s grave because he found love and felt he might not want to be vengeance or the night anymore, Conroy’s immense range was on full display.

I’ve said before that Batman and Bruce Wayne are one and the same and that many versions of the character have a performative side of Wayne, the playboy billionaire, he presents to the world to help throw off suspicion that he might be Batman. The exaggerated version of Wayne he plays up for the public is one of the main ways in which fans understand Conroy has the range. He sounds laidback, jubilant, personable, and well-adjusted. He seems to enjoy the power and privileges his wealth provides him and comes across as way too fun-loving to be an intimidating, imposing Dark Knight who would never smile the way that Wayne seems always seems to have a boyish grin on his face.

The Video Game Icon

The Rocksteady collection of Arkham Asylum, Arkham City, and Arkham Knight. Arkham Origins was a different developer, DC Games Montreal. Origins is still considered canon, however.

In addition to continuing to voice Batman in related animated series Superman TAS, Batman Beyond, Justice League, and Justice League Unlimited, all of which became the same continuity known as the DC Animated Universe or DCAU, Conroy would reprise the role in various other animated series and film projects as well as a highly successful video game franchise known as the Batman Arkham games. Starting with the incredible Batman: Arkham Asylum and written by Paul Dini who also was one of the writers and creators of Batman TAS (Dini also wrote Arkham City), Conroy returned as everyone’s favorite voice for the Caped Crusader, except this was not the more kid-friendly DCAU but the darker, bleaker, and more violent world based more closely on the DC Comics Universe. In these games, people die, horribly, and the stakes are much higher than we normally see in the DCAU (not that the stakes were not there too).

Casting Conroy as well as Mark Hamill to reprise the Joker cemented these games as iconic and gave them an instant, built-in fanbase to immediately obsess over it. The very first game also saw the return of Arleen Sorkin as Harley Quinn who would voice the character created for her for the very last time before the sequel saw the torch passed down to fellow iconic voice actress and Batman TAS (The New Batman Adventures specifically, but still basically the same show) voice actress for the longstanding Barbara Gordon aka Batgirl, Tara Strong. Many today know Tara for either Raven from Teen Titans or Teen Titans Go! or as Harley Quinn in many more recent voice projects as of Batman: Arkham City.

But Conroy’s Batman is the voice we follow for the vast majority of the franchise as we take control of and truly be Batman in several games beyond worth their salt. Conroy’s nuanced voice talent remains on full display as we hear him threaten bad guys, intimidate his enemies, talk with and bounce theories off his closest allies, barks orders at his protege in City, exhibit moments of softness and dare-I-say-it flirting and lightheartedness with Catwoman (“I think I chipped a nail back there”), tenderness with Talia, and more. Conroy’s voice, much like throughout Batman TAS, carries every fight, every grunt or crying out if you fall in battle, every emotional or climactic scene, and every quieter moment where he says little but expresses a lot in a few words. If you haven’t played the Arkham games, check them out. Just know that for the prequel game, Conroy did not voice Batman, but Roger Craig Smith voices the younger Batman in his second year as Batman and sounds very similar and did a fantastic job as well.

Conroy voiced Batman in Batman: Arkham Asylum in 2009, Batman: Arkham City in 2011, and Batman: Arkham Knight in 2015. He also voiced Batman in The Adventures of Batman & Robin for Sega CD, Batman: Vengeance, Batman: Rise of Sin Tzu, DC Universe Online, Batman: Arkham City Lockdown, Injustice: Gods Among Us, Infinite Crisis, Batman: Arkham Underworld, Batman: Arkham VR, Injustice 2, Lego DC Super-Villains, and Multiversus.

A Thank You To a Childhood Hero

Besides entertaining and inspiring kids, teens, and adults everywhere, Kevin Conroy gave us an escape. Escapism from homework, chores, dysfunctional families, school and family drama, traumas we’ve faced, life’s problems and monotonies, and most other crap getting us down. Whether it was his iconic work as Batman or one of his other roles in other projects, Conroy understood how much people loved and admired his work and what it meant to fans everywhere, including other up-and-coming voice actors hoping to follow in his footsteps.

While the character of Batman is straight (Fredric Wertham and his book Seduction of the Innocent be damned), Conroy himself came out in 2016, revealing he was gay. Some queer people question whether anyone queer needs to come out at all (or argue that if they do, straight people should also come out in order to put everyone on an even keel), but I personally love that he did. It shows a lot of people that anyone you admire or grew up adoring might very well have been queer all along and that it shouldn’t matter or change anything for the negative. It gives me joy to know that he was able to craft a life for himself and be a hero to countless people and was also a queer person. Conroy wrote “Finding Batman” as part of the DC Pride LGBTQIA 2022 anthology. The story recounts his life and experiences as a gay man.

It has been incredibly sad knowing he has passed, but we can all take comfort in knowing that he is immortalized in his many works and that the joy he helped foster within all of us shall live on forever. Rest in Peace Kevin Conroy, you were one of my childhood heroes and I hope that many kids and adults alike will know and appreciate the heart and soul you put into each and every role you blessed us with.

Kevin Conroy (Photo by Jesse Grant/WireImage for Wonderful World of Animation Art Gallery) *** Local Caption ***

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Housekeeping: Nerdy Terms and Phrases I Regularly Use

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Sometimes auto-correct brings to my attention that not everyone knows the kinds of terms, phrases, and slang I often use in my writing, especially when it comes to nerdy content. So I thought I would take this time to explain some of it in case it helps anyone. Some of it comes directly from TV Tropes, so feel free to check them out there for more information. There is also a slight chance I could be using some of these terms incorrectly from the way they are explained and used on TV Tropes, but either way, I will explain what these terms mean to me and how I use them. If you get the lingo, awesome, but if you don’t, I hope this helps.

In-Universe

In-universe basically means the opposite of real life or IRL. It is the world or reality that is meant to exist within the story itself, taken at face value. It also varies depending on the story at the time but can be used for any fictional story.

For example, the reason Scott Summers was killed off in X-Men: The Last Stand was because the actor wanted to focus on being in Superman Returns, but in-universe it’s because Jean Grey lost control and killed him.

Ship/Ships/Shipping

A ship is shorthand for a relationship. It can be a noun, as in Batman and Catwoman are a worthy ship. It can also be a verb meaning you want certain characters or even people in real life to be in a relationship together. An example is: I ship them together because they have excellent chemistry. It comes in singular or plural. Ships are usually of the romantic or sexual variety, but can also be platonic or otherwise if otherwise indicated. For example: I ship them, but as friends.

At the Time of This Posting/Recording/etc.

I give credit where credit is due, and this credit belongs to Sasha Wood, a brilliant comic nerd, and hilarious person. On YouTube she often uses the term: at the time of this recording, to remind the viewer that certain details in comics and fiction are canon at the time she said them, but are always subject to change later. Since YouTube, articles, and various other mediums cannot automatically update, it helps to indicate that certain opinions or facts being discussed at the time are valid, indeed, at the time. Especially comics, superhero, and nerdy content, things are often subject to change, often subtly or completely, at any time.

Sasha typically uses “at the time of this recording” for she usually records video for her YouTube channel, whereas I use the modified “at the time of this posting” because instead of recording, I am posting written articles.

Canon/Continutity

This one can be hard for me to explain, but do my best to do so in my own words without looking up the proper definition. If this explanation doesn’t work for you or is confusing, please feel free to look it up and compare.

Continuity is the universe at hand being discussed or considered. There are many continuities, including our own aka the real world. Each continuity comes with its own set of established rules and qualities that must be considered or adhered to at all times unless the rules are to be changed. The act of changing something in the previously established continuity is a retcon or retroactive continuity. Something that is canon adheres to the rules and aspects of the continuity.

In the nerd world, there are various continuities: for example, the DC Comics Universe is one separate continuity, while the Marvel Comics Universe is another. Things that happen in those worlds do not affect the other because they exist separately. The same can be said of our own, at the very least in the sense that fictional continuities rarely affect our own, but since our reality is the birthplace of such imagined worlds where writers and creatives write and create those worlds, our world inevitably affects those continuities.

Continuity also allows the creator or the audience to easily find and detect creative flaws when the rules are not followed as established by the creator: for example, when it’s said that vampires cannot walk into the sun, but suddenly vampires can do so without explanation, this is either a poorly constructed or unintentional retcon, an error, or a plot hole.

Your Mileage May Vary or YMMV

Simply put it means that the way you feel about a thing, character, story element, etc. might vary depending on how you feel about it. We all come into fandoms and spaces with different points of entry, experience, prior knowledge of concepts or symbols or the like, and various other factors that color our individual experiences.

Our socioeconomic statuses, racial or ethnic identities, sexual orientations and/or gender identities, world views, values, beliefs, religious or political views, and various other countless factors can all play a role in how certain aspects of fiction impact us. At the end of the day, I can claim that Jean Grey is the best X-Man, but depending on who you are and how you feel, your mileage may vary on whether you agree or not.

I haven’t looked it up for sure, and this is my best guess for the term (and I’ve been using it more recently than the rest and learned about it not that long ago) is that it’s a reference for how in some types of cars a certain type of fuel can work excellently and give great mileage, but might not work as well for other cars or be useless.

DC Comics’ Pre-52/Post Crisis/Post-Crisis On Infinite Earths/Pre-Flashpoint Continuity

I have explained this continuity in DC Comics before. But I will reiterate here in case some folks missed that article. I often simplify it to the Pre-52 continuity. It is the period between 1985-2011 when DC Comics revamped and revolutionized its continuity and characters. This was the period when many nerds of a certain age grew up and came into the fandom and recognize best of all when it comes to DC. Like the Bronze and/or Silver age before it (I’m still not clear if those were separate continuities in the comics or not) and the New 52 continuity after it, some elements remain mostly unchanged throughout, but details and other things did change.

For added context, I was born in 1992, so my entire young life was spent learning and enjoying one continuity before DC decided to change it all again by 2011. As I vastly prefer the Pre-52 and mostly despise the New 52, I often bring up the continuity I care about as much as possible. Fortunately, I was not alone. Many other fans also didn’t love the New 52 to the point where DC soon did a second reboot to restore much of what was established in the Pre-52 and abandoned several aspects of the New-52, though not all of it.

Conclusion

Did any of that help? Was there anything I left out? Be sure to let me know in the comments or on social media if I made any mistakes or if I left out anything that ought to have been included. I can always update these articles.

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